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Ask Jigsaw

Has something been bothering you recently? Got a mental health query or concern? 

Ask here and have your queries answered by Jigsaw clinicians. These are trained mental health professionals who have lots of experience supporting young people and their families, with their mental health. 

How does it work? 

  • Submit your query or question anonymously through the fields below
  • A Jigsaw clinician will read through all of the queries that are submitted each week
  • Check ‘Ask Jigsaw Q&A‘ for all published questions and answers . *Please note, we might change or remove some details to ensure anonymity 
  • As the questions are anonymous, we won’t be able to provide responses directly to each individual.

Due to the number of questions, we can’t guarantee that we will be able to answer each one, but we’ll try! 

We hope ‘Ask Jigsaw’ can provide helpful advice and guidance. However, it cannot provide direct therapeutic support, like talking to someone face to face.

Direct response

‘Ask Jigsaw’ is completely anonymous, with responses published here so others can benefit. If you are a young person and would prefer a direct response, you can register for Jigsaw Live Chat, and email or live chat with trained Jigsaw staff.

To speak to someone, our Jigsaw support line provides free mental health support and advice to young people aged 12 to 25 years-old, and parents or concerned adults who live in the Republic of Ireland .

You can also get in touch with Jigsaw clinicians by text message and email and ask for a return support call.

Contact details and opening hours:

  • Freephone 1800 JIGSAW (544729)  
    Monday to Friday, 1pm- 5pm
  • text 086 180 3880
    text “call me” with your preferred day and time for a call, Monday to Friday, 9am to 5pm
  • email  
    you can email anytime, clinicians will respond from Monday to Friday, 9am to 5pm.

If you are looking for an urgent response please visit ‘in crisis‘.

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Previous questions

Click on the following links to see some of the past questions that were answered by our Jigsaw clinicians.

Do you have any advice on how to like cope with feeling down?

How do you gain confidence in yourself when u feel like an embarrassment and failure?

I fear of death a lot and it’s been really effecting my sleep. How can I stop thinking like this because it really is scaring me?

My question is where to go with anxiety and panic when it’s affecting my daily life?

I want to get help as I know I don’t have healthy mental health but I’m scared to talk in person

Over the past few months my confidence has declined hugely both as a person but also confidence with my body image.

If anyone can help me find some coping mechanisms for social anxiety it would be greatly appreciated!

I say mean things to my brother for no reason. I really don’t like myself because of this. Can you help?

Ever since I ended my relationship, my mother has been the most toxic person I’ve ever come across.

I think I’m being emotionally abused by my Mam, but I feel dramatic when I say that.

Is there an online service where I could talk to someone through text message only?

I was sexually assaulted a year ago and since then I just have a huge problem with zoning out.

My son is 14 years old and his friend is implying on social media and in group chats that he is going to take his life on a certain date.

I’ve never gotten along with my dad and he’s really hurt me in the past. I’m scared he’ll hurt me again and I want to forgive him I just don’t know how.

My grandad recently passed away and I have been dealing with this horribly. Are there any healthy coping mechanisms or maybe a way of closure?

I met up with my friends today and it was great to see them but  the thing that stressed me out was the lack of social distancing.

I was just wondering if you have any advice of how to cope with feeling really trapped as a result of covid?

My parents told me they were getting a divorce before lockdown. I don’t know how to deal with the divorce but I’ve began to become obsessed with food.

My dad died a few years ago and I keep crying because of it and some girls in my class made fun of me because of it and I really miss him but I don’t trust anyone enough to say anything what do I do? 

I do want to start loving myself but it’s just really hard to. I’ve been thinking of making an appointment, but I’m really scared of face to face interaction.

How do I face a future I cannot predict?

How do I deal with this fear of the possibility that I’ve failed while waiting for results in June?

I think the lockdown is damaging my eating habits.

Feeling anxious, lonely and sad during lock down.

What’s the best way to get through depression?

My friends’ slagging is affecting my self-esteem

What should I do if I no longer have any reason to live?

My partner is depressed and I don’t know how to help him.

I’m 24 and never had a close relationship.

I just want someone to talk to.

How can you tell when you are being emotionally abused?

I feel that my mother hates me. I can’t take it any more. Any advice?

How can I know whats wrong with me? I have come to the conclusion that this cannot be normal.

I’m hurt by my brother’s rejection when I told him I wanted to die. I get upset and angry a lot because I feel extremely lonely a lot of the time.

I feel like if I talk about my problems right now it’ll stress my parents out, and that maybe I’m just over reacting. What should I do?

I’m feeling especially lonely at this time. More so than other days where I do feel lonely too, but now I’m completely isolated. I don’t know how to cope.

I have a serious mental health problem and I really want to talk to a professional but I don’t want my parents to know, what should I do?

How can I help my daughter who is stressed about Coronavirus?

Scrolling for Coronavirus information. How do I limit it?

How to cope with Coronavirus health anxiety?

How can you try and get your 14 year old teenager to homework and not make life difficult for everyone else?

I suffer from autism spectrum disorder, sensory processing disorder, how can you help me with my anxiety?

My father doesn’t want me to get counselling. He questioned why I’d rather bring up my problems with a stranger rather than him.

I don’t think I want to go back to counselling, as I don’t want to have to deal with emotions or things from my past resurfacing.

I know that I need to talk to someone but I don’t want to worry my parents. 

Will the Coronavirus affect my school?

Is it normal to feel down most of the time?

Do you help teens in the LGBT community?

He was controlling to a certain extent but I can’t help but miss my ex and want him back.

What do I do when no one at school likes me, and when I feel lonely at school and have no one to go to?

How do I know if I am developing an eating disorder?

I want to help my friend but I don’t know what to do.

Why don’t teachers get my problem?

I am anxious about the leaving, I scratched myself what can I do?

Can’t tell anyone, nothing really makes me properly happy anymore.

How do I accept to love myself when I hate everything about me?

Afraid to tell friends I’m bisexual.

I’m hurting so bad, what should I do since I have no one to talk to?

Obsessed with calorie counting, do I need help?

I feel like there is something missing in my life and something wrong with me (health wise). What do I do?

My boyfriend of 5 years broke up with me. I’m spiraling as the days go by.

Sleeping is almost impossible. The thought of sleep scares me when I go to bed at night.

I’m due to see CAMHs (Child and Adolescent Mental Health Service). How do I go about it?

I’m scared I’m getting obsessed about food. 

When I’m anxious I can’t bring myself to eat because my stomach becomes severely upset. Any advice?

 I hate living but don’t want to die how can I change this?

How do I stop caring what other people think?

The pain of losing a friend. Is there anything anyone can do to help?

 I suffered a missed miscarraige and  I cant seem to feel happy anymore.

Do you think if I killed myself people would remember me?

Is there a way to stop getting angry and have a better relationship with my family?

What is counselling?

Where could a 25 year old  get advice about finding a job? Fear of failure stops him from giving anything a fair go.

I need advice on how to balance helping my friends, school, social life and my own mental health and prepare myself for 6th year.

My daughter suffers from anxiety, it often stops her from leaving the house. What should we do for this?

My Mam and Dad separated recently and my Dad moved out.

I know my parents love me but I  am beginning to feel like I am just not good enough for them.

Near the end of school last year I fell out with my friends.

I’m moving away to go to college in September. It will be my first time living away from home.

Hate living but don't want to die

I smoke a lot of weed to take away the feeling of life. I hate living but don’t want to die how can I change this?

How do I stop caring about what other people think?

How do I stop caring what other people think if it’s taking over my life and ruining things for me?

Moody and snappy at home

I often become very angry and sad at home, my parents normally give out to me to being moody or snappy but I don’t know why do it. I feel like I am being treated unfairly but when I look back on the situation I don’t know why I got so angry or what the problem was to begin with.

Fear of failure

Do you have any info as to where a 25 year old male could get advice about finding a job? His anxiety and depression means he has never successfully held down a job.

What is counselling?

What is counselling? We hear the term ‘counselling’ used a lot, and in reality it can mean different things to different people.

Would people remember me?

Do you think if i killed myself people would remmeber me because i feel like I’m not the kinda person to be dwelled, School is getting harder and harder and sometimes it feels like i cant breathe with the persure being put on me, Sorry for bothering you with my problems feel free to ignore x